Saturday, February 23, 2008

6 Months to go

Happy Birthday, Emily!!!

Today was a pretty busy day for me. We had sushi (as always) at our favorite spot, Bamboo Garden. It's at the point where they don't even bother to wait for us to order and just start bringing out soup, salad, hot tea and water. We then dropped by my mom's because she insisted I buy her some frying pans and I live closer to Linens 'N Things. To be fair, it was a set of 3 non-stick frying pans for $8...you can't really beat that.

After that we dropped by the old house, because our renter is not making timely payments but he wasn't home.

From there Trevor & I went to an open house at our wedding venue. Trevor was a little upset we ate because they had SO much food. They had a buffet line of a few of foods, passed h'orderves, veggie/cold food plates, wedding cake, and small venetian table desserts. It was also a good opportunity to look at the reception area with some more freedom. I was particularly interested in testing the food; even on a full stomach I found a way to test a good many things. There were some things I loved and some things I wish I didn't bother tasting and wasting precious belly space so it was really helpful. I'm very glad we went and each time I'm there I'm more convinced that it's the right place to be wed. Right now we're working on cake flavor(s) that we agree on for our wedding cake(s). Our venue includes a cake in the per person cost, but Trevor's Aunt Peggy also wants to give us a cake so I think it would be quite offensive to her if we turned it down.

Yesterday we were supposed to go on a party bus to the casino but because of the snow it was postponed to next week. This was to be Kim's big birthday celebration, so I was a little sad because I know she was really looking forward to it happening. Instead she and I went out to TGIFridays for a few drinks and a piece of dessert. We also went to a local bar but it was very dead because of the snow. No one wants to be out when there's like 6 inches of snow on the ground and I don't blame them. It was a pretty chill night. No pun intended.

As for other ongoing wedding planning, I have some invitation supplies thanks to a very good Presidents Day Sale and a generous older gentleman who gave me a coupon that he wasn't going to use. It's very exciting. I know it doesn't sound very exciting but to me it's a big deal.

I view the whole planning process like an ongoing oil painting. One paint stroke doesn't look like a lot, but once you add in all the other pieces it cumulatively forms something of aesthetic value. Kim says that she's felt a bit removed from the planning process because I've pretty much gotten everything done and I have kept my word to keep many of the "inconsequential" details to myself so that the big picture is still a surprise. Obviously members of the bridal party are privy to my asking them their opinion here and there, but until it gets closer all they really have that's tangible about the wedding are their bridesmaids dresses.

I still have to work on a good date and time for the rehearsal. Kim, or my future mother in law, or both will be in charge of pre-wedding things like showers. I don't really want to worry about it and just let them run with whatever they're going to do. I do not however want a big expensive fuss made because getting married is expensive enough and it's one thing that I feel guilty about the costs associated with it; it's quite another to make my loved ones feel stressed too because they somehow got it in their head that I need to have everything done to the nines. I realize I don't get married everyday but that's no reason to put yourself in debt over it.

Speaking of debt, my beloved Nini is starting to plan her own big day. I don't want to pressure her about it though; she's got until next May to worry. And although she's one of my bridesmaids I do not want to in any way peer pressure her into feeling she has to return the favor. I already know that I'm earmarked for bridesmaids duty once Kim finds a man and as long as I can go through the motions once I think that'll tide me over just fine. I can only hope she picks a dress as lovely as the one on the side. Because while I don't usually wear purple, I think the glamorous slinky shape more than makes up for it. Nini is more of a pink girl. I can see her having a pink wedding.