Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Deja Vu...more wedding announcements

Congratulations to Alexis & Mike on their recent engagement.
Dude, there's gotta be something in the water.

Not like this is a gigantic surprise. Lex has already been talking about getting married to Mike in 2010, so I'm not about to pretend like I was even half as floored with Lex's engagement as I was with Kim's.

So Lex is next. Thankfully for her we already found a dress for her that we love because while doing the whole bridesmaid thing for Kim I insisted both girls try on wedding dresses. Heck, we drove over an hour away for 10 minutes of measuring and chit chat. Why not try on some dresses? Kim and Lex were reticent about it but, for the time we ate up driving there and money in gas, why turn around and go right back home? Lex actually fell quite in love with two dresses and both were incredibly reasonably priced (discontinued-s) so I get the feeling she'll likely turn right back to that bridal shop in Newtown and snatch one up.

I look back on the dress experience and think, gosh I'm so happy that's over with. lol I know girls dream of their bridal gown but man, it totally drained me to obsess about the alterations and adjustments. Because if it's not done in time...you're totally screwed. At least I would have been; my poor dress had to be ripped apart and taken down 8 sizes. Kim's new blossoming mommy body I think it'll be yet another thing to be feel concerned about. Of course, seamstresses do a heck of a job with what they have so it'll work out fine. And thankfully Kim fell in love with a dress with a lace up back so we have room to let her in/out as necessary.

If it were me I'd be begging people to tie me so tight I might very well pass out. Not because I'm a glutton for punishment but because I love that kind of tiny-waisted Vargas-Girl shape. I'm suddenly in a very retro, old school glam period. If I only got married a year later I might have gone in an entirely different direction and enforced a different theme on my poor unsuspecting bridesmaids. Birdcage veils, anyone?

Personally I don't like stuff in my face itching it all up, but I like the idea of it. I like the classic old-school glamour factor.

The things women tolerate for the sake of fashion, huh? But the problem is, in normal life there's no reason to do such things. You really need an ocassion to bring out your over-the-top fashion accessories like those Kentucky Derby big-floppy Southern Belle hats. You can't just show up to work, sit in your cubicle and wear a gigantic hat with peacock feathers on it and not be considered totally looney.

Weddings are one of those few occasions in life where you can push the fashion envelope because, it's your day and you wear whatever you want and people don't typically berate you for your fashion choices. (At least not to your face, or on that particular day-of.)

Sunday, March 22, 2009

We're not naming it Madison

I have a bit of explaining to do. I haven't been keeping this up to date. But I have a good reason. The one I thing I wanted to talk about...I couldn't talk about until now. I couldn't talk about it because it wasn't my news and because when it's not your news you can't spoil it for other people. When half of her family didn't know I couldn't very well tell the entire internet.

Kim's pregnant...with a baby...Vinnie's baby.

It's due date is Oct. 31st, 2009. It's gender is still yet to be determined but I'm hoping girl. A.) Because girls are awesome and B.) She wants to name her son Tyler and Trevor is already in an uproar about anyone using that name because he wants to use it. I say, people who have babies first have first dibs. And unbeknownst to me the name Tyler has shot itself up to #21 most popular baby boy name per Social Security Administration. A name that popular pretty much guarantees your kid will be referred to by his/her last initial for at least a little bit of their school career. I'll happy to tell you we're not naming our hypothetical not yet in production children, Isabella, Mia, Ava, Madison, Michael, or Joshua.

So, seeing as how they're going to be welcoming a bundle of...something and are currently unmarried, they're actually going to be wed in May. This May. Two months from now, May. Originally they planned to wait, but seeing as how they're both Catholic, with a little parental prodding they are instead getting married now before the baby's fully baked.

I'm obviously doing my best to be kind, openminded, relaxed and accommodating because clearly a lot has to be done in a short period of time. But Kim's got the church, the reception hall, her dress, the dj and a photog so a lot has been worked out already. I think the worst of it was getting the bridesmaid dresses because Kim had her heart SET on this very particular dark purple (blegh) color with "venetian gold" accent. Just try finding that at Macys...you can't. So we had to do a special order with a rush in order to get this color of dress together by early May. The things I do for this girl.

I'm not super excited about this color but this isn't my wedding day and my opinion means pretty little so I'll have to learn to just shut it. I am however hoping Alexis will pick a significantly cheaper dress next year when it's her turn. There are many benefits to this including the fact that the less money I spend on a dress the more money I have to spend on a gift. Hey, I don't suddenly make more money just because other people get married. I make the same salary every two weeks; I'm not even paid hourly and I don't have the capacity to pick up an extra shift.

I think being married is great, but I think weddings are the source of a great deal of financial stress unless you've had time to prepare for it. That's probably half of why most engagements last a year or more.

Anyway, mindless griping aside there's going to be a new little person in the world. I don't intend to spoil it yet because it's the first grandbaby on both sides and I think the spoiling will be pretty well covered from all angles. I don't think there will be much that it'll be needing from the perspective of new fangled do-dads. In fact, it already has a crib and it's only slightly larger than a bean. By the time the baby actually comes it's possessions will likely take over the entire house.

With that said, I also have one more last bit of news to share. Trevor's maternal grandfather passed away recently. I mention this because although it's sad someone has passed, within in the context of everything it's actually quite poetic. Life goes on. Where one life ends, another is just beginning to bud. I can't say I knew Grandpa George before he had Alzheimers and when he behaved more like himself, but I can say that he must be relieved to not be suffering anymore. He lived a very full life. He saw his three girls grow up and have families of their own. He saw four of his grandbabies grow up into adults.

He loved.

He was loved.

And in the end, I think that's all any of us can ever hope to acheive.